Being cheated on has to be one of the worst feelings in the entire world. After building trust, opening yourself up to a significant other and being as honest as possible, when they take advantage of it all by disrespecting both you and the relationship, it can cause some serious emotional damage.
Unfortunately, we all know cheating happens—in some cases, more than we'd even like to admit/know—and, as much as it causes us to rethink our own relationships in some cases, cheaters allow us to learn a few things, too.
While everyone has their reasons for making the decision to cheat, Men's Health reached out to some women to hear from their own mouth why they did—and why they don't have much regret. Here's what a few of them said.
“I don’t regret cheating because I didn’t love the person I cheated with. I slept with a guy I met out one night at a club in Miami when I was celebrating a girlfriend’s birthday. In my eyes, it wasn’t a big deal because there wasn’t an emotional connection. It was just sex. If I loved him, then I would be cheating with more than just my body. I’ve been married for four years, and I truly love my husband. I don’t plan on telling him because I don’t want to ruin our marriage over a person I don’t care about at all.” — Raquel D., 31
“I got married at 24 to a person I didn’t love, but settled for, because everyone was putting pressure on me to tie the knot. My family told me that I should focus on marriage instead of a career and my friends were almost all married (we’re from the South and that is just what people do). Our marriage was dead on arrival, and we just clung to each other because we didn’t know what else to do. Three years in, I met someone else at work, and we had an affair. My husband found out and it was the catalyst that helped us both go on with our lives without each other.” — Sherry D., 34
“What comes around goes around. I found out my husband was cheating with a neighbor, so I cheated back. I wanted to hurt him like he hurt me. When my husband walked in on us, he was shocked. I saw him cry, but it felt good to get him back for the pain he caused me. Obviously, we ended up getting a divorce, and I was fine with that.” — Luciana F., 41
“You don’t know what you are missing when the only guy you’ve slept with is your husband. Sleeping with other people expanded my horizons in the bedroom. I had two affairs in the same year, actually! The first one was with a trainer at my gym and it ended when he moved. The second started only two months after that with a guy at work. He was the IT guy, and we hit it off. One thing led to another and before I knew it, I was in his bed. That one ended when I quit my job and I lost the thrill of sneaking around at work. I don't regret it, and my husband still has no idea.” — Debby L., 28
It's interesting that some of the ladies used cheating as a way to get back at their significant others who did so themselves, but one of the more critical pieces of information is that these women did so because they were either craving sex or just weren't in love with the person they were in the relationship with.
Again, no judgement from us, but, wow, how do any of these make you want to trust another person ever again, right? Especially considering most of the partners of the cheating women have or still have no clue about it!
Needless to say, these are all examples as to why cheating is the absolute worst.