So, you’ve seen all the 50 Shades of Grey malarky in the press. You’ve read our guide to getting better in bed tonight.
You’ve even read our gentleman’s guide to bondage, and while you might have decided you’re not quite ready for toe-curling nipple clamps and excrutiatingly hot wax, you and your missus are keen to spice things up a bit.
Sex toys. No, it’s not all rampant rabbit vibrators for her to use on her own, but as our fave telly sexpert Tracey Cox says, “the more your lady uses a vibrator solo, the higher her libido is going to be.” If you're up for it, you can use them together.
Well, you probably are, because you clicked on this article.
The important thing is to know your experience level. If you’ve never used toys as a couple before, go for something that's suitable for beginners, like a bullet vibrator for her (which is compact, completely unthreatening and deceivingly powerful).
Toy expert Sara Dappiano says that "if you want an extra thrill, try blindfolds, feather ticklers or lickable lubes.”
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If you’re both past the fluffy stuff and are looking to take the next step, restraints like rope and under-the-bed ties are one way to go.
You could also wear a cock ring which, generally speaking, makes things more intense (for you and for her) and last a bit longer.
Bondage isn't all floggers and the aforementioned nipple clamps, but that's a route you can go down if you're both into it. Anal toys are something you can explore, but don't buy something like anal beads without having a conversation about it first.
“This is the ultimate no-go,” says journalist and sex expert Georgina Childs. “Anal may be a fantasy for blokes, but a lot of women don’t want to try it at all, let alone do it without talking about it.”
Well, the sensible answer to that question is to have a chat about what you both want to try. Obviously. Goes without saying.
You should also be able to decide what kind of toy to go for based on what you already know she likes. For example, if you know al fresco friskiness is her style, then Ben Wa balls (that sit inside her vagina and stimulate the g-spot, and can be used anywhere) or vibrating knickers (self-explanatory) might be the one.