While we've all enjoyed being someone's f*ck buddy in our lives, deep down—maybe further down than any of us even realize—there's a hopeless romantic who just wants to meet the woman of his dreams.
Whether the relationship with your partner is brand new, or you've been official for as long as a year, sometimes, things change, feeling a little less committed and more like, well, just friends.
I have a few friends in the situation as we speak, which led me to weigh the differences between being someone's f*ck buddy who just gives them enough emotional and physical attachment, and someone's boyfriend, with both sides sacrificing for the good of the relationship.
You're A F*ck Buddy If...
- The thought of actually going on a date is too much to handle.
- She gives you less attention than other people, both guys and girls.
- You can't be open with her and tell her how you feel.
- She gets squirmish when you try to kiss her in public, especially around people she knows.
- She only seems to give you attention while drinking.
- Sex is often first initiated by her, before you both go to bed.
- Arguments go to the extreme, without resolution, with make-up sex meant to put a band-aid over the disagreements.
- She's still flirting with other people either in front of you or behind your back.
- She appears happier while with friends than with you.
- You seem like a burden on her more than a priority.
- You only seem to drink together and nothing else.
- She wouldn't care if you actually left after having sex.
You're A Boyfriend If...
- She says she loves you.
- The first thing she does is hug and/or kiss you after a day of work.
- She surprises you and gives you attention—even when it's not one of your birthdays or a holiday.
- She supports your career decisions.
- She defends you to her family and friends—even if, deep down, she's upset with you.
- She opens up and speaks her mind for the good of the relationship.
- The two of you cuddle after sex.
- You experience new things together, accepting both successes and failures.
- The two of you support one another, no matter what happens.
- You do sweet things for each other because it makes the other person happy, not just for a sexual "thank you."
- There's little to no jealousy, with both sides trusting each other.
- You talk about your future together—even if it's as simple as a weekend trip in a month.