We often give you ways on how to give a lady a mind-blowing orgasm here at FHM, but there's actually a way to achieve something that many of us can't even imagine doing—getting your woman to orgasm for a full minute.
Contrary to popular belief, yes, it is possible, and Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., the author of Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life, offered up some tips on how to get your lady to moan for 60 seconds—and then begging you for more.
It's not common to achieve, but with Nagoski's advice, you may just become the type of one-minute chump you can brag about.
Feed Her Compliments
We all know women like to be told how sexy they are, but there's no time better than between the sheets to do just that. It's great kissing her neck and playing with her sensitive spot, but Nagoski suggests that feeding her ego and building her self-security will only make her squirm and crave you even more.
There's a good and bad way to talk dirty in the bedroom, so make sure you know the rules before you even attempt such a thing, otherwise she may be freaked out and things will end way to sudden. Build trust by starting with a few small things about what you want to do to her—like spanking or rubbing her clit—and then actually do it! Once you described the sexy scenario, she'll visualize it and want to make it happen.
Give The Cold Shoulder
Women want men who take control, no matter what they say or how they act. That said, there's nothing more desirable for ladies than a man who takes charge in the bedroom. While that's easily mistaken for just "bossing" her around, it's also true of playing hard to get, backing off a little to make her come back for more. This is as simple as rubbing her clit, getting her to a certain point where she's about to cum and then, instantly, pull back and kiss her neck making her wait for the goods.
Tease! Tease! Tease!
Along the aforementioned cold shoulder between the sheets, teasing should always be something towards the top of your list, as it's only natural to get her inner hormones raging with sexual passion as you give her just enough, but not everything. According to Nagoski, bringing her to the brink of orgasm over and over will only cause her arousal to spread all around her body, making the final orgasm lasting longer and peaking much, much higher
Set The Mood
OK, Casanova, now's the time to really show your romantic chops. You don't need to shower her with gifts and lead her from the front door to the bedroom with flower pedals—although that can't hurt—but making sure she's relaxed and undistracted will go a long way in making her orgasm last longer than usual. Research shows that music and candlelight will help calm her central nervous system, so don't be afraid to go the little extra mile to clear distractions for her to get the best orgasm of her life.