How To Bring Up A Threesome With Your Significant Other

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Not long ago, we gave you everything you ever need to know about threesomes. But, let's be honest, just because you know a lot about bringing in another person to enjoy sex with you and your partner doesn't mean that you've actually been successful at doing it.

That's because having a threesome isn't just your call. It takes approval from your significant other, too, meaning that, just because you might want to do one—and have a willing person—doesn't mean it's going to happen.

Approaching the threesome conversation is a delicate one, as it can lead to uncomfortable stress between you and your significant other because, to be blunt, you don't want her to think you need another person to get your rocks off.

Since we care about you and your relationship, here's how to properly bring up a threesome with your significant other—without making shit weird and awkward.

Do Your Research

Before you even approach this conversation and expose all your sexual hopes and dreams, use that handy little mobile device of yours to see what some people who have already taken part in one say. That's not to say that your threesome would go the same, but it's important to see if things between partners got awkward or if the threesome was used as a way to build their relationship.

Be Honest

This one can be difficult because, as we mentioned above, the last thing you want to do is make your lady feel inferior to anyone else and that you're interested in a threesome because she's just not giving you what you want. Make it clear that, no, bringing a third person into the bedroom isn't because she's unsatisfactory, but because it's always been a fantasy of yours or because you think it'd be fun to spice things up a bit.

Set Expectations

OK, so your significant other hasn't kneed you in the balls and stormed off after you finally mention a threesome. Now that you have her attention and she seems like she may be a bit intrigued, the next step is simple—set expectations. This can be anything from talking about who's turning your duo into a trio to what will actually go on if you both agree to going through with this. Is it unadulterated, hardcore sex? Is it just some teasing and maybe oral? Once you establish those guidelines, this thing could become a reality.

Know When To Bring It Up

Don't be a moron, man, if she's mad at you because you mentioned how cute her girlfriend looked at a party this weekend, it isn't wise to say, "hey, would you be into a threesome?" Be delicate and understand that you have just as much to lose in this as she does when you talk about it. Like almost everything in life, there will never be a perfect time to bring something like this up, but, at the very least, make sure it's when you two are on solid terms and happy.

Stop If There's Any Sense Of Insecurity

We all know that jealousy most often comes from insecurity. So, when approaching the topic of a threesome, make sure that, if she gives you any signs of doubt, you remind her that this has nothing to do with wanting to have sex with another woman. She'll be upset, sure, but rather then push and try to convince her, just apologize for bringing it up and take it as her way of saying it's not happening. Of course, that doesn't mean that, at some point in your relationship, it can't—but the ball's in her court to bring it up again.

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