When it comes to what's on the menu in the bedroom for most couples, oral sex is pretty much a staple. It's something you always feel comfortable ordering because you know that really no matter what it's going to be good. Sort of like a Cheeseburger Deluxe at a diner.
Here's the thing though, sometimes women aren't always comfortable with it. It's not to say they don't like it, it's just that it may not always be their favorite thing to do. So as a man, how can you help to make her blowjob experience the best it can be?
The idea is that the more at ease she is, the better it will be for everyone involved, i.e., you.
We have a few pointers:
Keep it clean, point blank. I don't need to a conduct a survey to tell you that most women are not going to be too enthused if there's any sort of funk down there. I'm not saying you have to take an intense shower prior to her going down on you, but it'd be best to not engage following a gym session.
Go down on her first. Sex shouldn't be used as a bargaining tool, but it's a nice gesture to take care of your lady before she takes care of you.
Don't push the issue of speed or depth. Some women have a more sensitive gag reflex and thusly suggesting "deeper and faster"may not always equate to better. If she's more comfortable with going slower, by all means, embrace it.
Hand placement is pretty key when it comes to receiving a blowjob. Most women don't mind if you place your hands on their head, but keep it calm and if you're unsure of how aggressive you're being, just ask if it's okay.
Speaking of asking, communication is paramount when it comes to receiving oral sex. Similarly to how you really appreciate her words of encouragement, she appreciates yours. Some women avoid giving blowjobs, not because they don't like them, but because they're unsure if they're even good at them. Make her feel like she's wanted and appreciated, it goes a long way.
Always fire a warning shot!! Let me clarify here, because you may be thinking of something else. If you feel like you're about to finish you should really let her know. I shouldn't have to explain why, either. It's proper oral sex etiquette. One poor or alarming BJ experience is enough for any woman to avoid it for quite some time.
Oral sex can pretty complex on the both the side of the giver and receiver, so long as couples make it point to have open and honest conversations about what's going down, it'll all be good!
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