Here at FHM, we talk A LOT about what should and shouldn't be going on in the bedroom. From positions that will break your manhood to sexy gifts to buy your girl, we're here to keep you informed every step of the way. One thing however that we've never advised our readers on is making a sex tape.
Sure, we've reported on various sex tape scandals, but that's hardly the same thing. If anything, those sex tape scandals are the EXACT reason we've steered clear of encouraging our readers down the same path. Here's the thing though, we're men, not scientists and if science is saying that bringing a camera into the bedroom could save your relationship....well, we're gonna back it up!
I do want to note that while nowhere in this study does it say, "keep the video private." I'm going to say, *"KEEP THE F'IN VIDEO PRIVATE." Alright, PSA complete. Let's see why a *lights, camera, action bedroom moment is the best thing for you and your lady.
According to a Medical Daily interview with relationship author and expert April Masini psychoanalyst, Dr. Fran Walfish, and relationship therapist, Eboni Harris, there a couple of reasons making a sex tape could lead to stronger intimacy in a relationship. It's not exactly an even split between male and female benefit, but you can decide for yourself if it's worth it. NO, we don't take submissions, by the way.
“Men are visual. All you have to do is take a quick glance at the profits for the porn industry to know I’m right. And if they have a partner who’s ready and willing to make a sex tape, which is porn, it doesn’t get much better for them. They get to have sex and watch the sex, while possibly having more sex, creating levels of pleasure," says Masini.
“The boundary lines are very clear with porno and they’re extremely smeared when you’re making a sex tape. It’s like going over the line with incest. There is no separation between you and the other. You are in it. It is you,” Walfish said.
It's All About Trust, Babe
Similar to other sexual activities, filming personal sexual experiences can be considered an exercise of trust and intimacy. Couples can discuss their sexual interests and fantasies and feel closer, which will improve the likelihood of a satisfying sex life. It gives couples a bird's eye view for improvement.
“If you think about watching the tapes like a game tape, you can use the footage to honestly share the moments that were most enjoyable. It is also interesting to note what you were focused on during certain positions or any particular acts that took you out of the moment,” Harris said.
The sex tape becomes a memory part of a video scrapbook. It allows couples to think about how great they look now, and how they will want to preserve that because their bodies will change.
Laughter Is The Best Medicine
“Most importantly,” Masini says, “if you are going to do it, enjoy it. If nothing else you will have a good laugh when it is all over and feel more connected to your significant other.”