For those of you who don't obsess over the latest and greatest dating trends, like I do, you might be unaware of what "micro-cheating" even is. To that, I say, good for you! Frankly, I don't even want to give this ass-backward phenomenon even more attention than the media already has, but, a las, here we are. I feel like there's some things that need to be addressed, so, I'm going to address them. If Donald Trump can do that at 3 AM on Twitter, why can't I?
Micro-cheating, as dating expert Melanie Schilling explained to HuffPost Australia, is a series of seemingly small actions that indicate a person is emotionally or physically focused on someone outside of their relationship. Most of the examples I've come across include sending "flirty" text messages and exchanging private jokes on social media with someone other than their significant other. In my mind, that makes me believe that we have an entire generation of people who think tagging someone of the opposite sex in a meme on Instagram is, in fact, being unfaithful. At one point, the same aforementioned "dating expert" suggested that commenting certain emojis on other people's posts is considered micro-cheating — I'll let that sink in for a bit.
I don't know if I missed the millennial mark somewhere along the line, but as a 26-year-old woman, cheating is cheating and it exists in two forms — emotional and physical. Physical is pretty straight-forward, and I hardly think I need to paint a picture of what that looks like. The emotional side of cheating, however, can be a little more complex, but in no way is including social media in that conversation doing anyone a favor. Here's why: If your relationship is so fragile that your girlfriend/boyfriend liking someone else's picture on Instagram is going to send you over the edge, perhaps you need to evaluate something within yourself.
I understand that times, well, they are a changin', and that no matter how hard we try and fight it, social media finds a way of infiltrating even the most private sectors of our lives. But, come on, really? We can do better than this. Hell, we are better than this.
At the end of the day, being in a relationship is about trust over anything else. Sex, common interests, political affiliations — all of that will undoubtedly take a back seat to trust, and to suggest that leaving a fire emoji on a hot Instagram model's page is somehow a breach of that trust, well, perhaps you shouldn't be in a relationship.
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