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In a world where online dating reigns supreme, it's hard to know what's real and what's, well, fantasy. Between catfishing, fabricated success rates, and the notion that meeting someone "the old school" way is simply impossible — we've entered a dangerous reality. Is online dating actually beneficial to singles? Or is it creating a generation of people who have replaced the idea of happily ever after with happily ever Tinder? We don't have all of the answers, but what we do know is that there are certain things every person has heard about online dating at one time or another. Turns out, a lot of them are BS and we thought it was about time to address them.
Now, if you're in a happy relationship with someone you've met online, great! We're not suggesting there's anything wrong with that. What we are suggesting is that online dating isn't the be-all end-all of romance. Even in 2018, it's time to recognize that other options are available. At the very least, it's time to question just how accurate these services are, right? We hate to get all Black Mirror on you guys, but if you haven't seen the episode "Hang The DJ", we highly-recommend it. It's all about online dating and it'll blow your mind.
Again, this isn't necessarily a positive or negative commentary on online dating. If anything, it's a little bit of both. As with all things in life, online dating lives in the grey area. The sooner you accept that, the better off you'll be!
Online Dating Is The Only Way To Meet People
This is a pretty defeatist attitude, if you ask us! You can meet people anywhere. Just because it's become the more "socially acceptable" means of dating, doesn't mean it's the only way. Our recommendation? Meeting people through friends and family is a great way to form connections. There's also the gym, a bar, the grocery store, hell, even the DMV is a viable option. Just don't be a creep, and you'll be fine.
It's Only About Hooking Up
We know that Tinder has become commonly associated with "hitting it and quitting it", but it doesn't have to be that way. Not every person on a dating app is looking for mindless sex. There are plenty of people out there looking to form true, long-lasting intimacy with another person. Our advice? Avoid dating apps that have become synonymous with hookup culture. Try ones that focus more on monogamy.
It Means You're Desperate
It seems a lot of people are ashamed to be on dating apps or, at the very least, they laugh it off in order to avoid sympathetic glances. Online dating doesn't mean you're desperate. It just means you're trying to make the most of what new tech has to offer nowadays.
Eventually You'll Meet The Love Of Your Life
Similarly to how Disney movies have created a distorted sense of romance, so have online dating apps. All those damn eHarmony commercials have really F'ed with people's heads and it's about time we address them. No, there's no guarantee you'll find "the one". You can participate in online dating for years and turn up empty handed and alone. As we mentioned earlier, it's not be-all end-all of romance and if it's not working, maybe it's just not for you — and that's OK.
You'll Always Be Compatible With "A Match"
Using the word "match" gets pretty darn tricky. It's the implication that you're 100% going to click with this person. Frankly, we think that's the biggest piece of BS in this entire article. Just because you match with someone, doesn't mean that the system's algorithm was correct. Human connection can't be boiled down to an app — there are intangible things at play that aren't addressed during the brief "get to know you" questionnaire. Those %99.8 success rates seem like a lot of blowing smoke and it's important to acknowledge that.
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