Let's just cut to the chase, guys: Whether you want to admit it, anal sex is something you've thought about more than just once. Sure, it's dirty—in more ways than one—and it probably grosses you out a little bit, but it's the forbidden fruit, and that's what makes it so desirable.
Of course, no woman is just going to let you slip your penis up her anus without trust and communication. Hell, even after years or marriage, some ladies won't even let her beau get near her back door.
And, while it's something that men ponder and women never want to discuss, it's something that you should at least understand—so here are the cold hard facts about it.
Forget what you see in pornos, guys, because, while some well endowed fella goes full speed on a poor woman's ass, that's not what it's going to be like if you and your lady ever decide to give it a try. That's because, while it may not be her biggest fear, the pain that's sure to come with anal sex is a major concern of hers. Even with lube, and even going nice and slow, there's no denying your lady will be hurt in her behind afterwards.
Some men still actually think that the only way to get a woman off is by rubbing her clit or penetrating her vagina. Come on, guys, get with it, because there are plenty of other ways you can give your lady the Big O without that. Ironically enough, anal sex is actually one of them, as the butt is loaded with nerve endings that can actually stimulate the G-spot if the angle's right.
Don't kid yourselves, guys, you are slipping your penis into an orifice that is the place waste comes out of a human, do you really think it's not going to smell and be dirty? It's a good idea to ask your partner to wash her booty before you both engage in anal sex, but, even then, it's not going to be completely clean. Your best bet to eliminate as much filth as possible is to start in the shower—which, in that case, a water-based lube is necessary so not to be ineffective.
No matter what you or your partner thinks, lubrication is the only way to have anal sex. To be short and sweet with a quick comparison: You wouldn't consider sliding down a water slide without water, would you?
Again, ignore what you see in porn, because, even if those men aren't wearing a condom, you should be during anal sex. Contracting some sort of STD from anal sex is extremely high, as small tears on the penis' foreskin can occur if there's not enough lube, making it easy for all sorts of viruses to get into your body.
While you both may be caught up in the moment and want to think you're in the clear after getting through anal sex, never go from the ass to the vagina without cleaning yourself and changing the condom. Much like the concerns of an STD occurring, bacteria and viruses latch themselves in places down there, and you don't want to increase your chance of an infection.
Remember a couple months ago when we told you about the lady who got pregnant from anal sex? Many of you may have wondered how that's even possible, but, believe it or not, it can happen. It's actually not as complicated as some of you may think, as semen can drip from the anus and into the outer parts of a vagina, leaving those super swimming sperm to, at times, reach an egg. Again, use a condom.
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