We've ALL been there. You wake up from a long night's sleep feeling a bit frisky, not really remembering why. You take a moment to rub your eyes and stretch your limbs, when all of a sudden it hits you. You had a dream last night, but not the typical falling down the stairs or losing some teeth episode. You had a sex dream. Was it about someone you'd NEVER sleep with in real life? Were you having sex outside? Were you being watched? Were you having gay when you're straight? These are all natural and healthy possibilities, but what do they mean.
Dr. Pam Spurr breaks down the meanings for the most common sexual dreams. Hopefully this will reassure all of you that you're not crazy, just human. Although, those two things aren't always as mutually exclusive as we'd like.
Spurr's article featured on The Sun begins with, "Here are six sexy dreams and what they reveal." Already, the world "reveal" can be unsettling, but try and remember these are dreams, not real life! Nobody will know if any of this applies to you unless you tell them! That's the beauty of the subconscious.
Typically you find yourself putting on a sex show. Maybe you’re stripping or performing like a porn star. You get turned on showing off.
What it reveals: Obviously this can be classic wish fulfillment and a desire for abandoned sex. Or you might be feeling neglected in your sex life and crave attention from your partner. If you have these thoughts, try coaxing your partner to be more affectionate … and then more active in the bedroom! Or this dream might reveal you have exhibitionist tendencies. Maybe you bottle these up during the day — so definitely find a release for them in an exciting hobby.
Sex With A Boss Or Workmate Whom You Don't Fancy Or Even Like:
These dreams are bewildering! Why would I have hot sex with someone I don’t like or find attractive?Typically images are of raunchy sex on the desk, in the boardroom, you can’t stop yourself.
What it reveals: Often these are about taking control of a work situation. They can reflect a power struggle between you and a colleague, and aren’t actually about sex. Your sleeping mind gives you some control through having sex the way you want it.
## Gay Sex When You're Not Gay:
As a straight woman, it’s surprising — gliding body-to-body with another woman and getting super-aroused. Ditto for a straight man enjoying a gay romp, which can cause anxiety about their sexuality.
What it reveals: Relax, these dreams are usually about curiosity. Although of course they might reveal bi-curiosity, especially if they’re recurrent dreams. It’s one way for your subconscious mind to allow you to “let go” and do something new. So you might be bored in your sex life, too. Check out a sex guide with your partner and each choose something new to try.
Hot Sex With Your Ex:
Okay, don’t panic that you got frisky with your ex, especially if you have a new partner. These are extremely common, where your sleeping mind replays sex sessions with your ex. Or puts you in a new scenario with them.
What it reveals: Often these signify you feel nervous in your new life, post-breakup. So your sleeping mind gives you something familiar and comfortable. Although if you miss your ex, or it ended badly, it might reveal emotional baggage you haven’t dealt with.
Our sleeping minds can be playful. This may trigger dreams of awkward sexual situations, such as if someone walks in on you masturbating.
What it reveals: If someone walks in on you, it can symbolize you hide some of your personality, that you can be a bit fake. And if you get caught in your sex dream, this may point to self-consciousness in the bedroom. These are wake-up calls to confront insecurities about yourself.
Risky, exciting and erotic S&M situations are fairly common (you naughty people).You may be in charge, strutting around in high heels, wielding a whip. Or maybe you’re submissive, tied up and blindfolded.
What it reveals: Being dominant reveals a need for more control, that you’d relish the chance. And it can be wish fulfillment for more sexual confidence. Being submissive can be about letting go sexually, to be teased, even tormented, It can be playful, but if there’s anxiety in the dream, it might reflect you feel too dominated in waking life.