We're not going to lie to you guys, 2017 was a real whirlwind year! Most days, we didn't know our ass from our elbow when it came to dating. Fortunately, we were able to enlist the help of some of the sexiest Instagram models in the game to steer us in the right direction. They schooled us on everything from the best gifts to buy your lady to what every man should be saying in bed. They all made it especially clear that if there's one thing to leave behind in 2017, it's being a DM creeper! No more unsolicited dick pic, guys. Please.
Speaking of leaving things behind in 2017, we also went ahead and threw in the absolute worst dating trends of the year. Seriously, there was some messed up sh*t afoot and we want our readers to do better come 2018! We're not suggesting the new year needs to be about love, but, at the very least it should be about safe sex.
Dating Tips & Advice:
Below you'll find the best of the best from all the ladies we've worked with these past 365 days. We guarantee these beautiful faces will look familiar! Oh, yeah, of course we added pictures. It wouldn't be FHM without a little sex appeal, right?
FHM: What's The One Trait You Look For In A Guy?
Amanda Lee: "Definitely sense of humor, quick wit and good style — and, of course, they need to have their sh-t together. A guy doesn't have to be rich or famous or anything, but have a good job, a clean home with perhaps some style, and I like when a guy is close to his family since I'm close to mine."
FHM: We Just Saw On Your Instagram That You're Engage, Breaking The Hearts Of Men Everywhere. First Off, Congrats! Second, What Advice Would You Give Single Guys Looking For The Right Lady For Themselves?
Ashley Alexiss: "Thank you! I love my Travis and everything that we have endured. I believe he makes me a better woman, model, entrepreneur and overall human being. To men, make sure that if you want a good woman, that you, yourself, are a good man. It took Travis and I a lot of trials and tribulations to get to where we are because we had a lot of self-learning to do, and I think many single men (and women) jump into things without being truly happy within themselves. I'm no Dr. Phil, but when you're in the right place, you have the ability to better one another, and that's what makes a growing and happy relationship. Also, don't stop trying once you get the guy (or girl). That would be the best advice I could offer.
FHM: Do Women Prefer Guys That Play Hard To Get?
Raven Duran: "I don’t know if there will ever truly be an answer to this age old question. But, I’ll take a stab at it. Yes, we often like guys who play hard to get because their lack of availability implies that they are a man of high value… but this usually stops as we mature. Also, it’s cute and fun in the beginning, but if a guy starts playing “impossible to get,” then that's an instant turn off. I usually vanish if there are too many games from him."
Ashley Resch: "If you are looking for a woman with a little bit more anger and a total badass side, hit up a group boxing class and you will definitely find who you're looking for. Remember, she can throw a solid hook, so don't make her mad."
Noel Leon: "Revealing your own unique mind and personality will make her comfortable enough to do the same, which is enough to catch her attention. She will actually respect a pickup line of substance rather than a cliché display of flashiness. Most guys have been conditioned to believe that rock hard abs and an expensive car is enough to win over any lady. But, guess what, that's not true! Millions have expensive cars and ripped abs, but there is no one else like you. It’s time we value each other for more than ostentatious material attributes that are a dime a dozen."
FHM: What About The Hottest Thing A Guy Can Say And/Or Do For His Woman? Any Tips?
Patrizia Yanguela: "I think the hottest thing is probably when they are almost speechless or say something really sincere. Women appreciate that!"
Jamie Leigh Thornton
FHM: If A Guy Wants To Get Your Attention, What's The Best Way For Him To Do So?
Jamie Leigh Thornton: "The most attractive asset a guy can have, to me, is fashion sense and a pretty smile. So, if he has those two things, he's already got my attention!"
FHM: When Can You Tell That A Boyfriend Is Trying Way Too Hard To Impress You?
Dajana Gudic: "When he agrees to everything I say. There has to be something we disagree on. If there isn’t, I’ll know he’s just telling me what he thinks I want to hear."
FHM: How Important Is Good Sex In A Relationship?
Brooke Adams: "So many people will say good sex shouldn’t be the most amazing part of your relationship. I disagree. Of course, sex fades as we get older, but not when we are young! Good sex is the foundation to a great relationship. You’ll have great sex before you say, 'I love you.' Once you say those three words, the sex gets even better and deeper!"
FHM: Are you a proponent of online dating or do you believe in being "courted properly"?
Abigail Ratchford: It's so weird with social media these days. So many people meet that way! But honestly, I prefer the more old-fashioned form. I'd say the most common way (at least in L.A. or New York) is meeting someone through someone else, or at night clubs/industry events.
FHM: OK, So Instagram Isn't The Way To Get Your Attention, What Can A Guy Do For You To Take Notice?
Alexis Ren: "Growing, expanding their knowledge to new things and being open to possibilities and experiences that life brings in.
FHM: What’s the hottest thing a guy can say and/or do for his woman?
Lindsey Pelas: "I think respect is hot. It takes a strong, confident man to appreciate a strong, confident woman. A man who isn’t intimidated or competitive, but is confident enough to empower a partner… I find that really sexy."
Vendella Sonia: "You've Got A Girlfriend/Wife: Don't message random girls online. No Twitter, Instagram, Facebook or whatever. Appreciate what you've got at home and, if you're not into her anymore, be a man and break-up first."
CJ Franco: "Don’t excuse bad behavior or justify why your situation is the exception. 'Slammed with work' is an imaginary phrase, especially when work involves outings with the whole squad which later end up all over Snapchat and Instagram (WTF is your job? Weekday nightclub networking? Just stop!) She should be missing you when things are going well; not just when she had a rough day, when she’s bored or lonely… I’ve always wanted to storm out dramatically, turning back briefly to say 'Don’t call me when you're lonely'".
Jenna Bentley: "If you're going to try to do it at the movies, make sure to catch an early showing or simply sneak into a theater when everyone's leaving a movie. Feeling scandalous? Get behind the movie theater screen on the steps and go to town... who cares about wasting money and not watching the movie you paid for."
Nora Segura: "A romantic weekend with lots of food and drinks is a great start to get to know each other, if you don't already. Regardless of where you're at in your relationship, you will both know if you think it's worth it or not after this."
Bri Teresi: "Don’t be a DM douche. Don’t just say, 'Nice tits' or 'Great Ass,' that’s boring and unoriginal. Compliment her on something that doesn’t get you hard."
Well, guys, we hope you learned a thing or two! That about sums it up for the tips and advice. Now, we're on to something a little less pleasant — dating trends, and horrifying ones at that. If you were on the receiving end of any of these in 2017, well, we hope you're doing OK.
Below you'll find the most outrageous, dangerous, and downright weird dating trends from the past 365. Let's all take a deep breathe before continued. Alright, let's do this.
- According to the New York Post: "The disturbing, nonconsensual trend is called “stealthing” and its rise is documented in a report by The Columbia Journal of Gender and Law — "Lead author Alexandra Brodsky argues that “stealthing,” when a man secretly removes his condom in the middle of sex, is a form of sexual assault and should be treated as such. Even more troubling is the online community Brodsky uncovered, where men encourage other men to “stealth” their partners. These perpetrators, both gay and straight — believe it’s a man’s right to 'spread one’s seed.'"
- In a first person piece from Bustle a young woman describes her difficult with breadcrumbing which is defined as: "Instead, 'breadcrumbing' is when someone wants to call it quits, but instead of disappearing into thin air or telling you they're not interested, they continue your texting relationship." Additionally, "Breadcrumbing is worse than ghosting because it is more sadistic," Carole Lieberman, M.D., a Beverly Hills-based psychiatrist and relationship expert, tells Bustle: "Ghosting is merely a coward’s way out of a relationship. Breadcrumbing is a slow and painful death of a relationship, whereas ghosting makes it clear, eventually, that the person is gone."
To read the full story, head HERE
- This one is pretty insane when you think about it, but SUPER prevalent in today's culture (and no, not just youth culture). According to Whimn: "Phubbing is a portmanteau of ‘phone’ and ‘snubbing’ and occurs when conversation is interrupted by attention being given to a smart phone rather than the person you’re with. When it’s your loved one who bears the brunt of this compulsive action, it’s called phubbing - partner phone snubbing."
To read the full article, head HERE
Astral Projection Sex
- According to Whimn: "The unusual trend is all to do with astral projection, which is also known as having an out-of-body experience. Some people believe that the soul is able to consciously travel outside the body, an argument reinforced by recent scientific findings. For some, these feeling create the sensation of flying or falling, only to be sharply jolted awake moments later."
To read the full article, head HERE
Here's hoping 2018 will be a year full of great sex, happy relationships, and a whole lot of normalcy! Craziness can only be exciting for so long. Sometimes settling down into domestic bliss can be the way to go — think about it!