Dear Angels, If a girl is crap in bed – and I don’t want a catty “maybe it’s you who’s crap!” answer – how do you ramp things up a bit without performing the emotional equivalent of punching a girl’s head down while she’s giving you a hummer?
JW, via e-mail
Angel Steph:
Just tell her straight. It’s going to hurt, but let’s face it, sex is too important to beat around the bush. And if she doesn’t know how can she improve? I’d advise complimenting her on something she does well in bed, then pointing out something she could improve (“Could you try a little less teeth when you go down on me?”), then pay her a second massive compliment to ease the blow…
Angel Jen:
If she’s “crap” it’s because she’s lacking self-confidence or she’s inexperienced. You have two options. The first is to work on her self-assurance; compliment her, make her feel sexy. Alcohol might help. The second is to teach her a few tricks. Whack some good porn on. Nothing too adventurous – you don’t want to scare her off – then suggest trying out some of the moves. If neither works, admit defeat. Some people just aren’t sexually compatible and she’s probably thinking the same thing.