Life is full of liars. It’s a sad, sad fact. Whether it’s your bank manager, your girlfriend or your next-door neighbour telling you that he definitely didn’t scratch your car, people lie. But they can be beaten. FHM spoke to professional mindreader Alex McAleer to find out his Jedi secrets.
Here are his top tips:
01 Establish a ‘baseline’ of the person’s normal behaviour. Watch how they talk when they’re chatting casually i.e. telling the truth. Then look for when they do something slightly different when you press them on a subject they might lie about.
02 Watch the nose. Remember how when Pinocchio told a lie, his nose grew? Well, that’s not far off the truth. When someone lies, especially on the spot, they will get a rush of adrenaline that floods the capillaries in the nose and makes it swell and itch slightly. Liars will often scratch, rub or touch their nose frequently. The same rush of adrenaline is also what makes us blush.
03 The eyes are the windows to the soul. If your soul is burning in a hell of eternal damnation because of your filthy rotten lies, your eyes can give the game away. Ask the suspected liar questions and observe their eyes. When they remember the truth, their eyes will tend to do one thing but, when they make up an answer, they will do the opposite or something slightly different as they process the information. Look for odd, sporadic eye movements to get an indication of which parts are true and which are pork pies.
05 The devil is in the detail. If someone is lying to you, they'll try extra hard to make you believe the lie. Because of this, they will often add lots of unnecessary detail. If it looks like they’re telling you too much and over-embellishing, it’s probably because they’re lying.
06 People are usually nervous about lying. Watch out for what psychologists call ‘self comforting gestures’. These are unconscious mannerisms that people do to reassure themselves: playing with their hair, stroking the back of their head or adjusting a tie.
07 Silence is golden. Liars don’t like silence. It freaks them out and they feel the need to fill the dead air. By staying quiet, you are giving them no feedback on whether you believe them or not, which makes them nervous and want to try harder, usually by making the lie even bigger so that you reassure them that you believe it in some way.
Check out Alex’s website for more info about him, live dates and more tips and tricks: alexthemindreader.com, and follow him on Twitter @AlexReadsMinds