1/ BULK UP
“Numerous muscles in your body (eg buttock, back, arm, thigh) increase their tension prior to and during orgasm,” explains Professor Barry R Komisaruk, author of The Science of Orgasm. “So the stronger you are, the stronger the contraction will be, and the more exciting the orgasm.”
2/ BAN BEDROOM TECH
And we’re talking all bedroom tech. “To enjoy sex and let go the brain needs to be focused on the task at hand, so to properly orgasm you need to be focused on sex,” advises Diana Wiley, Ph.D. “Do this by banning all modern technology from the bedroom, because the beep of a text message or flashing light of a Blackberry will infiltrate both partner’s minds and consequently reduce both partner’s pleasure.”
3/ DIVIDE YOUR ATTENTION
“We recently discovered nipple and breast stimulation project to the same brain region as stimulation of the genitals,” states Professor Komisaruk, who leads a research team at Rutgers University. “This is key because it means while stimulating the clitoris, vagina, cervix or breasts is sufficient to stimulate orgasm, stimulating all of them at once produces a more intense, complex orgasm.” Translation? Play up top and down below to really rock her world.
4/ BECOME A SEXY SHAKESPEARE
“Great sex is about building anticipation,” reckons Dr Joy Davidson, author of Fearless Sex. “And dirty text messages build anticipation. When you get to work send your partner an explicit text and get her to reply in kind. Carry on till you get home.”
5/ SEE NO EVIL, HEAR NO EVIL
Blindfolds – yawn, even Posh and Becks have done that. Yes, but have they added earplugs? “If you restrict one sense the others heighten,” says sex therapist Dr Joy Davidson (joydavidson.com), “but if you restrict two they go berserk. When you can’t see or hear, your reaction to touch is magnified, meaning even a light kiss is incredibly sensual.”
6/ MAKE A LIST
“With your partner, list every sex act or fantasy you’ve ever heard of,” explains Dr Joy Davidson. “Then, when your ideas finally run dry, make a second copy and, separately, cross off the ones you find fearsome or grim.” Now merge the ones you’re both happy to try and go for it!
7/ DON’T HAVE SEX
Because, according to intimacy expert Carla Tara, sometimes it’s the worst thing you can do. “When your woman isn’t in the mood, pushing for sex will make her resent you,” explains Carla (carlatara.com). “It’s better to offer her different ways to feel close to you like putting your arm around her waist. This allows her to feel nurtured, non-threatened and, best of all, horny.” Now it’s sex time.
8/ RING RING – ORGASM CALLING
Recent Indiana University research discovered the addition of vibrating devices results in better sex for both men and women. “Try a vibrating cock ring,” suggests research team leader Debby Herbenick Ph.D. Why? Because it doesn’t give you a giant plastic shaft to compete with, but does give her “enhanced pleasure”.
9/ SAY ‘HELLO SHINJU’
Or ‘breast bondage’, to those outside Japan. “Shinju is both beautiful and highly arousing,” reveals Dr Joy Davidson. “Research how to construct a ‘rope bra’ online, agree a safe word and then bind your partner. The sexy harness will direct the flow of blood towards her breasts – a process that will make them extremely sensitive to touch.”
10/ PARK THE WANK TRAIN
Refraining from a shuffle is tough but, says Prof Komisaruk: “Part of the pleasure of orgasm is the build-up of pressure. So if you accumulate ejaculatory fluid, when you do finally come the volume and pressure of semen spurting out will be greater. So will your orgasm.”
11/ PRAISE HER FUFU
A happy vagina is a horny vagina reckons Debby Herbenick, author of Because It Feels Good. “Next time you’re going down, let her know how beautiful she is. It’ll do wonders for your sex.”
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