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Everything You Need To Know About Threesomes

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You don't need us to tell you that men fantasize threesomes. The thought of two women throwing themselves at you and wanting/letting you do almost anything to get them off is reason enough to daydream about one.

But why is a threesome such a big fantasy? To help answer that question, the good people over at Medical Daily decided to dive in a little bit deeper, using research to figure out some psychological reasons we desire a threesome.

The Media's Portrayal

Whether it's watching a good porno or some silly late-night comedy, threesomes are always depicted as being hot and heavy. Of course, that's not always the case—in fact, most of the time it's the complete opposite—but the visual is already engrained into our minds thanks to what we've seen on TV.

According to the Medical Daily piece, a 2003 study that was published in the Journal of Undergraduate Research showed just how much of an influence TV has on sexual attitudes and perceptions. The results showed that the participants who were exposed to sexually explicit videos were less affected by sexual content than those who weren't—meaning, yes, the videos had a "priming effect."

The Object Of Multiple Desires

As stated above, the reason men want a threesome is because, deep down, they like the thought of two women throwing themselves at him, taking advantage of him in ways that only one woman can't.

The Medical Daily piece supports this theory, as threesomes are a way for a man/woman to be "center stage." Psychologically speaking, a threesome validates a person's sexual status, as few people ever engage in such an act, thus, thrusting that man/woman/couple into a greater level of attraction.

In layman's terms, it's a confidence and ego boost.

Added April Masini, a relationship expert and author: "People who are insecure often feel that being part of a threesome will give them confidence, sexually, and make them a more desirable partner because they’ve had this experience.”

Men And Women's Attitudes About Threesomes

While both men and women fantasize about the thought of a threesome, the number of those who actually partake in one are way different.

Per a 2016 study from the Journal of Sexual Archives, researchers found that 82 percent of men and 31 percent of women were interested in a threesome, but that just 24 percent of those men and a mere eight percent of women admitted to already having one.

So, while we all may have dirty little thoughts in our minds, following through on those typically don't always come to fruition.

The Health Risks

Like most all sexual encounters, there are always health risks that people should be aware of—so always wear a condom during sex, guys. When you add another person into the mix, things can get a little more dicey in terms of healthy behavior and decision-making ability.

Since fluids are being exchanged among three people and not just two, it's important to remember to have lots of spare, unopened condoms to switch to when going from one person to another.

Threesomes can be great, but don't get so caught up in things that you forget about protecting yourself and your partners during one.

Fantasy Or Real Life?

With a threesome being one of the most common sexual fantasies, the bottom line comes down to two things: doing it or not doing it—assuming you have the opportunity.

According to Masini, "Not everybody wants to act out their fantasies," and that's important to remember when it comes to threesomes, because, if there's any hesitancy to have one, that man/woman/couple shouldn't have one.

Like other fantasies we have, it's OK for people to let their imaginations go wild, while realizing that actions shouldn't be taken to live them out. After all, it's your body, your mind and your health, and if you feel as if a threesome may damage any or all three of those, a threesome's not for you.

That said, if you're comfortable with both people involved with you and into adventurous sex, exploring the opportunity of a threesome is a great way to build intimacy and live out a desired sexual fantasy.

Medical Daily

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