When it comes to modern dating, there's a lot of misconceptions about certain topics. Whether it's cheating, dating apps, or anything in-between, people like to believe what they've been told versus what they've experienced. We get it, it's easier to just shut up and listen then put yourself out there and risk getting hurt. That said, if you don't actively ignore all that BS, you're going to end up alone. OK, maybe not alone, you can always adopt a dog.
First dates are particularly riddled with all sorts of judgements. Why? Well, because they're quite possibly the most stressful dating situation there is. Forget your wedding day, nothing will get you sweating more than the prospect of a first date. Here's the thing though, it doesn't have to be like that.
If you make it a point to calm down, listen to your gut, and go with the flow, none of the mistruths below are going to matter. If you continue to harness the negativity people keep promoting about first dates, you're going to fail. It's really that simple, guys.
The "Man" Has To Pay
Gay, straight, bisexual, pansexual, old, young, we don't care, there's no rule about who "has" to pick up the check these days. If you want to split it, split it! It doesn't make either of you look cheap, we promise. Contrary to that, if someone offers to buy you a meal, let them. It doesn't make you less than or needy. At the end of the day, it's a first date, it's not life or death. Don't stress over the money involved, that's just stupid.
You Can't Sleep With Someone On The First Date
We've said this many times, but we'll say it once more, for good measure: if you want to sleep with someone within 30 seconds of meeting them, that's fine. If you want to wait until marriage, that's fine. The only absolutes when it comes to sex are that it's safe and consensual — nothing more, nothing less.
First Impressions Are Everything
On a job interview? Yes, a first impression is all you get. On a first date? Not so much. Yes, we realize that's confusing, hear us out. If you're nervous and you mess up, there's nothing stopping you from calling them the next day and saying, "Hey, listen, I knew I blew it yesterday, but, blah, blah, blah." If the person isn't receptive to your explanation, f*ck 'em.
You Need An Escape Plan
If you're not feeling your date, you don't have to have your best friend call and say she's going into labor. Just leave! There's absolutely nothing wrong in saying, "Sorry, it's just not clicking for me. Thanks anyway, bye." You don't have to be callous or malicious, just tell it like it is.
You Can't Just Be Friends
If you and your date don't click romantically, guess what? Friendship is pretty freakin' awesome too. As you get older, your friend circle gets smaller, and sometimes, that can be upsetting. Meeting new friends can be especially difficult. Why not turn lemons into lemonade, y'all?
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