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For those of you unfamiliar with popular dating lingo, ghosting is defined as the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication. Based on that definition, you might be thinking, "Man, is there anything more cruel than ghosting someone?" As it turns out, we find that way of thinking to be a little bit, erm, dramatic. In our opinion, ghosting someone is a completely acceptable form of behavior and here's why.
Closure Is A Myth
In a perfect world, everyone would get closure, right? Well, guess what? The world is far from perfect and you cant expect to tie a pretty little bow on every relationship (serious or otherwise) you've ever had. Sometimes it's just easier to walk away and never look back. Consequently, that's where ghosting comes in. In a way, you're almost doing the other person a favor. Don't quote us on that.
They Won't Take "No" For An Answer
Some people are impossible to end relationships with. Hell, some people are impossible to date from the jump. You may think ghosting is childish, but sometimes it's the only viable option. If a person refuses to leave you alone, short of calling the police, ghosting is your best bet. You can certainly try the whole "letting them down gently" approach, but who's that really helping? Sugar-coating is for baked goods, not reality.
You Never Met In Person
Say you hit it off with someone over an online dating app and then suddenly, you're not feeling it anymore. Do you really think you owe that person an explanation? Dating apps aren't teaching mechanisms and you don't need to burden yourself with that task. Any person who beats themselves up over getting ghosted on a dating app needs to evaluate their self-image. You shouldn't harness any guilt over not answering someone on an app, after all you've never even met in person.
They're An Assh*le
Similarly to someone you've never met in person, ghosting someone who has been horrible to you is hardly a crime against humanity. At the end of the day, you only have yourself to answer to. Ghosting isn't always about being cowardly, sometimes it's about finally being selfish and what's so wrong with that? In our opinion, how you get out of a bad relationship isn't more important than actually getting out of it. Do what you need to do to survive, it's really that simple.
To anyone reading along who may have been ghosted, consider the following: it may have entirely been your fault and you know what? That's OK too. On the contrary, you may have not deserved it at all. The reasons above aren't concrete, some people ghost because they themselves are assh*les. Just remember that when it comes to relationships, nothing is black and white. Live in the grey area, you'll be happier because of it.
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