Long Distance Relationships: How To ACTUALLY Make One Work

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In the spirit of being brutally honest, I think willingly entering a long distance relationship is dumb as shit. In fact, I don't think there's a bigger way two people could possibly set themselves up to fail—miserably, might I add.

What I will say however, is that sometimes it's out of your control. What if the person you love has to relocate for a new job? What if they're in the military? What if a family member falls ill and they have to move back home? These are all totally viable scenarios and I'm sure they happen often to couples everywhere.

Question is, WTF do you do? How do you make a relationship that's primarily sustained on carnal affection, frequent date nights, and cuddle sessions work with a mileage gap? It's not easy, but it's doable. Again, I don't think you should start a relationship with someone who lives far away (like, you NEED a plane to see them) but if it shit happens, these tips could very well keep yo' romance alive & well.

Solid WiFi Connection

I know this sounds super-lame, but who the hell wants to video chat with a pixelated image of their frozen girlfriend? You need that shit to be CLEAR—sound, picture, quality, connectivity, the whole bit. This is especially important for intimacy of the cyber variety, you know what I mean, I don't need to paint a picture.

Turn Your Location ON

Alright, so this behavior mayyyy border on a bit toxic/needy, but I'm not a psychologist so I don't need to be feeling all unethical about it. Most smartphones have the capability of indefinitely sharing location. If you and your partner have had trust issues prior to the big move, it might prove a good idea to use this feature, even if for a little while. It will ease the tension on behalf of both parties being able to know with NO bullshit where the either person is.

Know Each Other's Schedules

This is standard in any relationship, but even more so for long-distance. You aren't going to be occupying the same space so it's easy to forget what the other person has going on. Do yourself a favor, write it down. It doesn't have to be fancy, but it's worth doing. There's nothing worse than when your partner tries to call or text you in the middle of an important meeting/obligation. If it happens enough, you'll start to feel resentful...maybe even suffocated. Suffocation is the kiss of death, I promise you that.

I'll Be Seeing You

This can be tricky, but it's REALLY crucial that you try and maintain this "rule" as much as possible. It's important to have things to look forward to in any relationship—anniversaries, weddings, holidays...you know, the fun stuff where it's actually nice to have a +1. Seeing each other will obviously be placed in the category once you've moved apart. Have some basic idea of the next time you'll be seeing each other, that's all!

Honesty Is The Best Policy

No one presumes long distance relationships to be easy, but that doesn't give you an excuse to be an asshole. If you're feeling like it's too much or that you need a break from it—SAY SOMETHING. Don't distance yourself emotionally just because you've distanced yourself physically...that's some cowardly crap right there. Be open and honest like you would in any other romantic relationship.

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