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Caitlin Arnett Talks Crazy DMs, Dating Tips, And What About Modeling Makes Her Feel So Empowered

If you're feeling especially down about being single on this fair Valentine's Day, don't you fret. We've got a special treat for you guys today by way of Instagram model Caitlin Arnett. Caitlin was kind enough to sit down with us to talk about everything from her DM disasters to what she considers the ideal man. On top of that, we got to dig a little deeper and find out more about her life, upbringing, and why modeling has become such an important part of her confidence today.

It's clear by her answers below that Caitlin is a smart, talented, beautiful woman who has a lot to offer! We've got to admit, guys, this advice is top notch. Hopefully you'll learn a thing or two while getting to know an awesome gal — not a bad way to spend your time, huh?



FHM: As A Model And Someone Who Generally Takes Pics In Lingerie Or Swimwear, What's One Misconception You Often See From People?

Caitlin Arnett: "I think people have a lot of misconceptions of me, but the things I hear most after meeting people is they didn't expect me so shy, down to earth, and wholesome. I grew up a in a small town in Texas and was pretty sheltered as a kid. My family didn't expose me to a lot of what was going on in the world and I wasn't the girly girl type that wore a lot of makeup and was really into fashion like I am now. My awkward stage lasted longer than most as well, so I wasn't used to getting much attention from boys until I was about 17 or 18.

All of that has kept me pretty reserved in real life, but modeling gives me an outlet to be something else. While I love taking pictures in cute bathing suits and sexy lingerie, it really isn't a direct reflection of who I am as a person. Through everything i've done in the modeling world and on social media, i've been able to stay true to my values and beliefs. I really enjoy meeting people for the first time and showing them they shouldn't always judge a book by its cover."

FHM: Say A Guy Slides Into Your DMs And Asks You Out, Would You Take Him Up On It?

Caitlin Arnett: "Even though I've seen some funny, crazy, and weird things in my DM's, It's much easier to get a date with me if I meet you in person. I seriously get hundreds of DMs a day from guys trying to take me out and so far nobody has been creative enough to get my attention in a genuine way. I get a lot of guys either asking to fly me somewhere or buy me something, or they are super boring or creepy. I'm not looking for a sugar daddy or a one night stand. I'm a relationship kind of girl and I feel like the best way to connect with somebody and truly get a feel of who they are, is by meeting in person and seeing if there is any chemistry there."



FHM: Really? You've Never Even Given Someone Who Did It The Time Of Day?

Caitlin Arnett: "I try to respond to everybody. I think it's really cool that people follow me and like all of my pictures. I think of myself as a regular girl and don't want any of my followers to think I am stuck up or take it for granted that i've been given such a big platform. That said, most guys that slide into my DM have generic pickup lines or don't say anything to make them standout from the rest. I'm not completely ruling it out, but you better come with something more than a 'Hey, whats up?' or 'You are gorgeous, where can I take you?' Send me a picture of your puppy and ask for a play date and I just might take you up on it."

FHM: Any DMs That Creeped You Out More Than Others Or Had You Ask Yourself, 'WTF?'

Caitlin Arnett: "Where do I start haha! I think any girl with a large social media following could tell you all kinds of stories of creepy DM's. It happens on a daily basis unfortunately. I think after going through so many of them, you kind of become desensitized to a lot of it and think most of them are pretty funny. I'd say the creepiest DM i've ever gotten was from somebody who was convinced he was my boyfriend. He kept sending all kinds of crazy messages asking where I've been, why I'm not calling him back, and if I was cheating on him. I had no idea who this guy was and was totally creeped out. Thankfully it's easy to block anybody who crosses the line."



FHM: You Mentioned You Were Kinda That "Awkward Gal" Growing Up, When Did You Start Noticing Guys Giving You Attention?

Caitlin Arnett: "Yes, I had a super long awkward stage. I didn't get much attention from guys until late in high school which just so happened to be when my braces came off and my boobs came in! To their defense, I wasn't really looking for attention from guys at that point either. I was focused on school, swimming, and hanging out with my friends. Once I finally did grow out of that awkward stage, I got more attention from guys than I could handle but was never the type that wanted to date around. Like most girls, I had that high school crush but I was always too nervous to even talk to him. Now that I get attention from guys pretty regularly, I try to weed out the guys just looking to hook up and find somebody I can fall in love with."

Lead Image via Instagram/caitlin_arnett

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