It doesn't matter if you've been with your significant other for five weeks, five months, or five years, intimacy in relationships is always important. Now, we understand that intimacy has a multitude of different definitions, but for the purposes of this article, we're talking about physical intimacy. You know, sex. Beyond just feeling good, sex is often a barometer for the relationship as a whole. If the sex is lacking, chances are something is off. Not to fret, though, it doesn't always mean immediate "Doomsville".
In a survey of 1,000 Europeans and Americans, Dr. Ed implored men and women to learn how often they had sex, the average length of their relationships, and what caused their abbreviated sexual escapades. By analyzing these answers, they were able to ascertain just how important people think sex is regarding the overall relationship satisfaction.
Everything from why the sex is fluctuating to when the sex is fluctuating was covered. If nothing else, these studies are a great, anonymous way to gauge just how "normal" your own relationship is. Of course, we don't recommend basing your happiness off of other people's, but, hey! In the name of science, why not learn a thing or two?
The Percentage Of People Who've Experienced Sex Frequency Changes
We've all heard of "The Honeymoon Period", right? You know, that glorious, sex-fueled part of the relationship when everything is rose colored and perfect. Well, that ends, unfortunately, and this study proves it. The survey found that more than half of participants said they started to see a decline in the amount of sex they had after six months into their relationship. The good news? That's actually pretty normal. Dr. Ed further explains that according to relationship experts, sex may be easier at the beginning of a relationship because the chemicals that get us turned on take a front-seat approach.
Now, the question remains; since most people aren't aware that the decline in sex is mostly chemical. What rationales are they using? Is it the same song and dance as you'd expect? Well, sort of, but there's a few wild card answers we weren't expecting to rank so high.
Top Reasons That Prevent Couples From Having Sex
The survey expressed that for nearly every three in four people, the answer was being too tired. To be honest, we were certain that work or kids would come well before before tired. That said, tiredness is certainly an umbrella for other things — work and kids included. It was refreshing to see that not feeling as connected anymore only accounted for 12.1%. It shows that, at least within the context of this survey, that environmental factors weigh more heavily on a relationship's intimacy, than internal ones.
Despite the fact that this survey found that nearly 2 in 3 women believed the lack of intercourse in their relationship was their fault compared to around 35 percent of men, we don't believe the blame game is healthy. When it comes to strengthening intimacy, it's all about open, honest communication. Do that, and everything else will fall into place — literally and figuratively.
To read the full study, head on over to Dr. Ed for more intimacy insiders.
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