Navigating Her Lady Parts: As Told By An OBGYN

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Most of us here are men, so, if asked about the vagina, few of us will really know how to respond other than by saying—"uh, women have them." Don't get us wrong, there are a few of you out there who take our advice and read about the proper ways to rub one, lick one, finger one and stimulate one during sex, but, for the most part, we're all just a lone ranger trying to find his way down there.

For that reason, we talked to OBGYN Barb Dupree, M.D. about pretty much everything that dudes should know about the vagina, with Dr. Dupree offering up her expert opinions on the most intense spot on one to the fears of oral sex.

Since it's important for us men to know more about the vagina, here's what Dr. Barb Dupree had to tell us—so consider this a free Sex Ed lesson.

If There's One Thing No Man Should Ever Do To A Woman's Vagina, What Would It Be?

"You shouldn't really ever put something in the vagina that wasn't designed to go there. The vagina is covered in a very thin layer of skin that can be easily injured and irritated. Foreign objects can quickly pose a problem by traumatizing the tissues, and, if not an immediate issue, then very possibly later."

What's The Most Intense Spot On A Woman's Vagina?

"About 20-25 percent of women can have an orgasm with vaginal penetration alone, but most women need more direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. The area of sensitivity in the vagina is the 'G Spot', for which there is an abundance of discussion and disagreement about its existence—although, as most scientists would now agree, there is an area that may, for some women, produce intense arousal and orgasm. The G-spot is defined as an erogenous area about the size of a nickel located 2 to 3 inches inside the front wall of a woman’s vagina. Because of its approximate location, the G-spot can be devilishly hard to reach, especially in the standard missionary position. However, if you’d like to spice up your bedtime routine with a little research of your own, try sitting astride your partner, on a sturdy chair or firm surface. Lean backward so the penis has a better chance of connecting with the front of the vagina."

What Sex Position Is Best To Relieve Vaginal Pain/Discomfort?

"There are many potential causes of painful intercourse, so the best position is likely to vary from woman to woman depending in her specific condition. In general, woman-on-top is likely best because she has more control for angle of entry and depth of penetration. This is where asking is always a good idea!"

Is Going From Anal Sex To Vaginal Sex Really That Bad?

"The risk of sexually transmitted infections is the same or perhaps higher with anal than with vaginal penetration. E. coli is a bacteria or 'bug' that lives in the bowel. E. coli very readily crosses the short distance between the female anus and the female urethra or urinary opening, increasing the likelihood causing a urinary infection. Anal intercourse can sometimes cause this type of transfer, particularly if it is immediately followed by vaginal intercourse."

"There's more likelihood of trauma with anal intercourse, since anal intercourse requires complete relaxation of the rectal sphincter muscles before penetration. Trauma or injury to those muscles can lead to loss of muscle tone or control over time. That makes this form of intimacy not entirely "safe," but, more importantly, consent freely given by both partners is an essential feature of sexual activity in a loving relationship. Never assume your partner is 'OK' with anal penetration, always get permission/consent. The relaxation required to prevent injury isn't likely to occur unless the partner is wholly willing."

What Concerns Should Men Have While Performing Oral Sex On A Woman?

"Most women will find receiving oral sex pleasurable—79 percent of men report giving oral sex according to The Normal Bar, by Pepper Schwartz and James Witte. I have some women report that the only way they're able to orgasm is with oral stimulation to the clitoris. Saliva has digestive enzymes in it and can be irritating to some women, though. If your partner needs to 'clean up' immediately after oral sex, don't take it personally, it may be that her sensitive genitals may not tolerate the presence of saliva for long. Women can have occasions of vaginal discharge and odor which may make her want to avoid oral sex at this time, be sensitive to her leading, if she is avoiding she may not want to share the details of 'why not now'."

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