Sex Expert Spills The Cold Hard Facts About How To Give The Best Oral Sex

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There are some guys who love doing it, while others would prefer not to, but oral sex is something that every single man has to do to sexually satisfy his lady. And while we gave you some tips of our own a few months ago, a real-life sex expert named Dr. Jess recently took to Reddit to only expand on the topic, making sure you know exactly what you're doing to get your woman off.

Go Slow

"When we’re excited, our minds race and our bodies stumble to keep pace. In the heat of the moment, our caresses often become slovenly gropes and our lustful kisses deteriorate into something from a bad romance novel."

Use Your Nose...Seriously

"Apply a drop of lube and run your nose down the centre of her vulva – roll it around in large circle around the edges or slide it right inside as you nod your head up and down and back and forth. Breathe deeply and let your natural sounds flow freely to let her know just how much you love it."

Create A Suction Cup

"Open your mouth as wide as you can and press it against her vulva. Suck away as your roll your tongue around the edges of your lips to create your own suction cup."

Use Your Palm

"Forget fingering (for now) and use your entire hand to take her pleasure to new heights. Place a flat hand against her vulva (as though you’re cupping it) and apply pressure as you slide up and down. You’ll need lots of lube for this one!"

Stroke Her Clitoris

"Her inner clitoris is just as important as the pearl-like head that peers over the top of her vulva -- the legs and bulbs can be stimulated through her labia with the right amount of pressure. Use the tip of your tongue to tease between her lips during the early stages of foreplay and use your lips and cheeks (covered in lube) to increase the pressure."

"As she gets closer to orgasm, stroke your tongue from the head of her clitoris right down to the fourchette (where the lips meet at the bottom) while pressing your thumbs firmly into the fleshy parts of her outer lips so that she has a grounded surface against which to grind."

Change Up Your Positions

"Most couples engage in oral with the receiving partner on their back. This not only limits their sexual repertoire, but the repetition can render even the hottest techniques boring. Change things up with these suggestions."

  • Flip her onto her stomach.

  • Ask her to get down all fours.

  • Pull her legs off the side of the bed.

  • Have her bend one leg up onto the couch while standing.

  • Place her ankles in her hands while she lies on her back.

  • Let her sit on your face and wrap her legs right around you.

  • Lie on your sides facing one another.

  • Lift her onto the kitchen counter and pull up a chair.

And because Dr. Jess is, you know, a sex expert, she answered a ton of other questions that men and women had on their minds about all things sexual—so you may want to head over to Reddit to see the entire thread and pick up some advice for yourself.


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