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Should You Watch Porn With Your Girlfriend? Yes! (According To Scientists And Real Life Lady-Types)

A new study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine claims that men who watch more porn have better sex lives than those who don’t.

The study showed that of 280 participants, men who watched more porn found it easier to get aroused than men who didn’t. So, if you want to get watching, now you've got some scientific evidence to back you up. But more importantly, is it acceptable to watch it in the presence of your other half?

“Watching porn together expands your sexual repertoire, which is the key to a long-lasting, enjoyable sex life,” says doctor of human sexuality Emily Morse, the host of hit podcast Sex With Emily.

Add this to the fact that a staggering 96% of women surveyed by sex shop Ann Summers admitted they have watched porn with a partner and liked it, and you start to wonder just why us guys are so bloody terrified of asking our better halves if they want to watch a skin flick together.

The pros say it’s good for us. The ladies admit they love it. Why is it so easy to wuss out at the prospect of popping the dirty little question? In short, it seems everything could go wrong.

Imagine us as your guiding light, leading you to lady-friendly grumble-watching success. To ensure you’re never left blushing and pleading with your other half to let you back in the house, we’ve enlisted the help of Summer, Jo and Lana, three beautiful friends of FHM, who hold the key to an awkward-free couple’s porn party….

Q&A with Summer, Jo and Lana...

How should I ask her?

JO: “The most important thing is to make sure your girlfriend doesn’t think you’re doing it because you don’t think she’s good enough. You’ve got to approach it as a bedroom experiment for you both, rather than you just getting your rocks off to porn stars.”

LANA: “I’ve always been the one to initiate it actually. I just came out with it. It went down pretty well. So be confident that she’ll be up for it. I am!” What should I do if she asks what sort of porn I watch when she’s not around?

SUMMER: “Girls know that their boyfriends watch porn, so it’s really nothing to be embarrassed about. Most girls are doing it too, they’re just super-secret about it. Being open in a relationship is the key. If you can’t be open about sex, then you’re gonna hit rock bottom real fast.”

What sort of porn do girls like?

JO: “I personally watch lesbian porn. That’s a good place to start.”

LANA: “Same, all my friends say they do too. I just think porn guys are kinda ugly, I’d rather see two girls together. I don’t want to be a lesbian, you just want to imagine yourself as a girl.”

SUMMER: “Porn dick is just minging.”

Is watching anal totally out of the question?

SUMMER: “It’s not out of the question, as long as he doesn’t think it’s as easy as it looks in porn…”

LANA: “Just because it happens in porn, doesn’t mean it can happen in real life.”

JO: “Porn can ruin sex if people think like that. Girls need to be warmed up when it comes to sex. For me, exciting is good, just don’t go too far too fast.”

What’s the biggest mistake a man can make while he’s watching it?

JO: “Having a wank by himself. Can you imagine?!”

LANA: “Just make sure you know she’s there. Engage with her. Tell her what you like. I think watching anything too unreal and plastic is bad too. I like seeing real girls with real boobs in porn – it makes it feel more, well, real.”

What if I don’t like what she likes?

LANA: “Me and my ex had really different tastes in porn, but our sex life was amazing. Just because we liked to watch different stuff didn’t mean our sex sucked. Sure, it’s fun, but you don’t need to watch porn to have great sex.”

How will I know when to press pause and get on with the business?

SUMMER: “Why would you press pause? Keep it rolling in the background!”

LANA: “You could see who lasts the longest – you or the porn stars.”

Should I finish with a facial in true porn-star style?

JO: “What’s a facial?”

LANA: “It’s when a man puts his love juice on your face and hair.”

JO: “Oh. Yeah, that’s not really such a massive deal if you’re with your boyfriend. Obviously you don’t want that every night. It’s fine as long as you have a shower afterwards.”

SUMMER: “Except when it gets in your eye.”

LANA: “And only do it if you’ve got her there before you. Keep it fair.”

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