I know you're not asking for my opinion, but I'm going to give it to you anyway. Before we get into the nitty-gritty numbers, I'm here to tell you that friends with benefits is a myth. It won't last, hell, it can't last! It will end in one of three ways and there's no ifs, ands, or buts about it.
Both parties develop romantic feelings and become a monogamous couple.
One person develops feelings, it gets weird, the sex stops, the friendship dissolves.
Both parties start sleeping with other people.
This is not really up for discussion, people. This is fact. Of course I'm not talking about having sex with a friend, that can happen once and ya'll can carry on perfectly normal afterward for the duration of your friendship. I'm talking about two friends who have sex with each other consistently—gay, straight, bi, cats, dogs, Trump—the species is irrelevant, it doesn't work.
Despite all logic and common sense, people are still going to continue to have casual sex with their friends. So, I guess the least we can do is inform you about what you're getting yourself into. Well, I'm not going to inform you—I'm just going to relay pertinent information from the good people over at Dr. Ed. They 1,000 Europeans and Americans about the inner workings of being friends with benefits, here's what they learned—
Popularity By Nationality And Gender
- "More than half of Europeans and Americans said yes (57 percent). Perhaps this is because casual sex in America is on the rise, withover 80 percent of college students saying they’ve engaged in casual sex. Europeans are even more up for a casual fling, withthree European cities making the list of the top 10 most sexually expressive cities in the world, compared to two U.S. cities."
Attitude By Nationality
- "Over half of American men and women were sexually satisfied in a FWB relationship. In fact, Americans were far more likely to feel sexually satisfied in a no-strings-attached sexual friendship, with 51 percent reporting being completely satisfied, compared to 42 percent of Europeans who reported the same."
Benefits By Gender
- "A large number said their bed buddy relationships were a place to experiment in the bedroom, explore sexual fantasies, talk about safe sex, and cuddle. Over 40 percent also talked about family, friends, and their jobs. And at least a quarter of respondents said they went out on dates or occasionally grabbed dinner."
Emotional Attachment By Gender
- "Men were slightly more likely than women to be attached to their FWB (52 percent of men versus 44 percent of women)."
Reasons For The Beginning And End
- "Survey says 46 percent of the time it all starts with a mutual desire to be FWBs. Alcohol was involved 38 percent of the time. And 25 percent of the time, an FWB began because one person had always wanted to try it, so they jumped at the chance. "
To read the full study, head HERE