First dates. We all want them, yet, we all loathe them.
However, now that you've found a sexy woman who is half way interested in you, the real challenge is about to start, because you've got to keep her interested in you. For better or worse, you’ve got skin in the game, and don’t pretend—you knew what you were signing up for.
A few rules to follow:
- Don't expect anything from a first date. Not even a peck on the cheek.
- Don't mention your gorgeous ex-girlfriend who shattered your heart.
- Don't say anything negative, like, at all. You're a f*cking ray of sunshine, you hear me?
- At the end of the date, leave it open. If you ask when you're going to see each other again, you're showing that you're already on the hook! Make sure you're interest is mutual and, if she's not responsive or suddenly “super busy”, just let it go! It might be your caveman instinct to hunt her, but realize when you're the one keeping the relationship alive and quit resuscitating it! Life is too short for a one-sided relationship.
Like most my girlfriends, its hard to convince me to go on a date in the first place. So, once you have secured a first date, show her that she is a priority. There's something very insulting about postponing or rescheduling, that says, “I have obligations that are more important than you are." The only time this has any good result is when your goal is to emotionally terrorize and mind f*ck her into thinking that you're “desirable” and “in demand”—but wouldn't you prefer someone who doesn’t need master mind manipulations?
In my opinion, the best dates would probably also be team-building exercises. You want to give her an experience—your dck doesn't count—so consider her interests and hobbies. The movie date is the laziest and least creative date night! Unless we’re watching *50 Shades Darker, we don't want to go to the movies, so try harder!
I enjoy comedy shows, day-cations, any kind of hidden spot, speak-easys, places with great lighting, Dave & Busters, concerts, giant water bicycles, the shooting range, and especially activities involving my dog. On a first date, no woman will ever want to chill with your friends, so don't even have it cross your mind.
If you asked her on the date, you better be prepared to pay for all the festivities. I don’t mind taking a guy on a date—so long as I was the one who initiated it. I've found that, the more expensive the date, the more expectations we have. I’d rather steal food from craft services on a movie set, than awkwardly attempt to pronounce my menu selection from some fancy restaurant. Being chased off the set of CSI: New York with a plate stacked of sushi and pizza is more fun than watching three of your credit cards get declined at a night club because you underestimated things.
Remember, it's your job to do something new and exciting with her. Treat her like she’s your friend first, flirt with her, make her feel special and wait for her to warm up to you. The less aggressive you are, the more she’ll want to secure her place with you—and, maybe, just go on a few more dates in the near future with you.